I felt like I was on a road all alone, with no one to travel with me. It made the journey very lonely.
At that point in our lives, it seemed like everyone had their own busy lives. Friends from high school or college were busy making babies and having careers. It seemed that no one had the time or interest to reconnect.
For years, my husband and I pretty much did life alone. And life was… lonely. We would go through each week working ridiculously hard, come home exhausted, talk to each other and rarely anyone else, and then start the whole routine over again.
We kept telling each other that we would eventually get involved or start a church group, so we could “do life” with other people, but ironically, life kept getting in the way of us doing life with others.
There was always an excuse. Devon was in school, so we didn’t have time. Then he was working too late in the evenings for us to make it to a group in time.
A couple years ago, we decided that we would just have to make joining a church group a priority. Our church, Life.Church, has this amazing thing called LifeGroups, and they talk frequently about how life groups are a way to “do life together.”
I always heard that phrase and thought, “Well, isn’t that precious?” Because honestly, in my adult life, I hadn’t done life with many people. I didn’t even know what it would look like to do life with another adult other than my husband. There were friends I’d check in with from time to time, but not really anyone who I could turn to day in and day out to complain about the mundane or to rejoice with about the little victories.
Everything changed when we committed to a group. On January 3, 2018, we decided to launch a LifeGroup meeting every Wednesday at our house. After more than a year of getting together weekly with other couples in their 20’s and 30’s, we have formed truly invaluable friendships. It’s been a game changer in our lives.
But it’s not just the weekly meetings that have brought us together. Here are some ways we’ve cultivated our relationships with our group:
- Pray for each other. True friends are those who care about the needs you care the most about, will pray for you, and will see you through thick and thin. We send each other encouraging texts. We check in on each other. And of course, we actually take the time pray for one another.
- Stay connected throughout the week. We don’t just see each other on Wednesdays and then forget about each other’s existence until the next week. The biggest channel to staying connected for us has been technology. The ladies use GroupMe so we can message each other throughout the day, and it’s not quite as obtrusive as a group text chain. We also have a group Facebook page.
- Have fun together. Even though many of us are super busy as professionals, spouses and parents, it’s important that we cut back and have fun. We have game nights, potluck nights, guy/girl hangouts, etc.
We’re so incredibly thankful for the 11 men and women who entered our lives last year through this group, and we think everyone should either start or join a group that will pour into their lives in a similar way!
What are some ways you have cultivated friendships with others in your adult life?